i used to live near the sea, but in one of the many locations in the uk with no surf, near glasgow in scotland.
I am also 40+, with 4 kids, so not a lot of free time. I managed to keep things going by convincing the family that holidays to Cornwall were worth while... and one year managed about 8-10 visits, including one 1100 mile round trip for a weekends music festival and surf....
Added to that were the occasional saturday/ sunday visits to the closer surfing locations, usually about a 5 hour round trip.
Just need to decide how important it is to you, and then try to come to compromises with the rest of the family so you can get to the sea...its amazing how keen kids can be to go away for a weekend if they get to do stuff they like as well.
And then the rest of the time, well like the others suggested, films, forums, magazines etc.
In the end i decided to move to the surf, was going to cost less than all the trips, and have been happily here near Newquay since july, surfing 3-4 times a week most weeks
