surferbee wrote: A few months ago I was talking to a women in the lineup that I knew, and I asked why her boyfriend was missing out on the good conditions. She said he had to work, but added, "It's better when we don't surf together. He gets too competitive. Then, I get insecure and my surfing turns to xxxxx. He starts mansplaining and telling me what I should be doing differently. I get annoyed and embarrassed and paddle in. He feels bad and paddles in, too. Then we both feel bad. It's bad all the way around. Much better for the relationship if we don't surf together."
I am lucky that my wife loves surfing as much as I do. If there was any "fights" in our relationship, it was over me telling her to go on a wave and she didn't go because she thought she couldn't make it.
Me- " You have to trust me and just go !"
Her- " But what if I wipeout and get hurt ?"
Me- " I wouldn't tell you to go if I wasn't sure it was okay TO go."
But all that's changed and she charges bigger waves than I do. She doesn't get to surf as much as I do, so when she gets a chance, she really goes for it.
So much so, when I proposed to her out in the ocean in Waikiki, she saw that a wave from coming and said "just wait, I'll be right back".
She caught the wave, rode it in and then paddle back and said " Yes ! " ( For a moment there, I thought she was going to paddle in and that was that ) I guess a true surfer has their priorities straight.
But she used to surf with me back then and now she boogie boards while I surf.....well actually she walks the dog while I surf and I walk the dog while she boogie boards.