Getting past the foam -- please help

So at the ripe age of 30, i bought a nice foamy 9'0" and have been testing out the local beaches around LA. Lately I've been going out in Santa Monica. I've gone out about 4 or 5 times now and all I can muster the courage to do is get about shoulder deep in the water (much more comfortable with my feet on the ground!) and ride the whitewater in. I've gotten pretty good at this but I realize it's not what I really ought to be doing. I get pounded, I get intimidated, I get exhausted! Every time I try to paddle out further, I keep getting closed out and intimidated.
Even in the loving waves of Santa Monica!
Anyway, can you guys walk me through how you got over the fear of being way out in the drink!
1) on the shore, what should I be looking for and waiting for to get me a decent paddle out?
2) with the little mushy close out waves in Santa Monica, should I be trying to point the board at an angle or just hope to ride a bit before closeout and then wipe out when it closes out?
3) any other thoughts on getting over the fear and giving me a step by step would be REALLY appreciated!
Even in the loving waves of Santa Monica!
Anyway, can you guys walk me through how you got over the fear of being way out in the drink!
1) on the shore, what should I be looking for and waiting for to get me a decent paddle out?
2) with the little mushy close out waves in Santa Monica, should I be trying to point the board at an angle or just hope to ride a bit before closeout and then wipe out when it closes out?
3) any other thoughts on getting over the fear and giving me a step by step would be REALLY appreciated!