Here's a counterintuitive suggestion for overcoming fear of unbroken waves - don't look at them
No, really, bare with me here. When I'm out in waves that are a touch above my comfort zone, I find that I don't commit to it, and as I paddle I'm looking over my shoulder at the wall of water approaching me and it's a self-fulfilling prophecy - I don't catch it. Or worse still - catch it, but screw it up.
And how to get round this? Don't look at them coming and commit. Make sure its the right wave and you're in the right place, make sure noone else is going to go for it... and then look at the beach, start to paddle, forget about whats happening behind you for a moment, and really commit. When the wave collects you, you'll be paddling fast enough to really catch it, you'll be nicely balanced and then it becomes instinct to pop up.
In reality, you need to keep your eyes open to make sure noone else is coming along the face, and you need to know where the wave is breaking, but don't try too hard - focus on where you're going, not what's coming
