Surfing Waves

Posted: **Thu May 19, 2005 7:07 am**

i was just wondering if you guys had any experiences with this sorta stuff ... my mate told me today that her best friend slit her wrist last year and died ... she sent me a pic and it was soooo freaky. im just wondering if anyones got any advice for stuff i can say coz im completely at a loss.

Posted: **Thu May 19, 2005 7:41 am**

Dunno really its a tricky subject, maybe don't talk too much but listen instead, seems like your mate brought it up so may just want you to listen

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Posted: **Thu May 19, 2005 9:49 am**

why would she keep those pictures?

anyway, no I havent had any experiences except a chick I used 2 know cut her wrists sometimes, but she was really hot

Posted: **Thu May 19, 2005 10:25 am**

globesurfer wrote:why would she keep those pictures?

anyway, no I havent had any experiences except a chick I used 2 know cut her wrists sometimes, but she was really hot

huh?? um... jus slightly off the topic there..

Posted: **Fri May 20, 2005 6:17 am**

Um, reading between the lines here the first thing that comes to mind for me is why would your friend bring up this topic with you. Now?
Perhaps it's a conversation-starter to break the ice before your friend shares some deeper problems? Perhaps your friend simply doesn't know how to start a dialogue on the subject with you directly and this is a roundabout way to get started.
Whatever...talk to your friend now (as in NOW). Ask them some caring & up-front questions and take the time to listen to what they say...carefully.
If you're unsure they're ok. Let someone with professional skills know.

That's what I'd do in your situation.

Posted: **Sat May 21, 2005 2:27 am**

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Posted: **Sat May 21, 2005 6:10 am**

agreed. why die?

Posted: **Sat May 21, 2005 8:41 am**

And you write those comments from a happy well-balanced perspective of yourselves and a good sense of self worth. These are great things to have...But some people for various reasons are not so happy nor is their view of life so clearly defined.
In our country it's the 2nd biggest killer of people under 25.
I'm sure there's more to it than just the 'easy way out' line...

Posted: **Sat May 21, 2005 9:49 am**

People who commit suicide are chicken xxxxx. I'm not trying to be rude, but its just so stupid. Life could never get bad enough to make me even think about that.

man your talking absolute shite ..

And you write those comments from a happy well-balanced perspective of yourselves and a good sense of self worth. These are great things to have...But some people for various reasons are not so happy nor is their view of life so clearly defined.
In our country it's the 2nd biggest killer of people under 25.
I'm sure there's more to it than just the 'easy way out' line...

..and thankyou Brent for bringing a grown up perspective ...

Posted: **Sat May 21, 2005 1:38 pm**

deleted...sorry

Posted: **Sat May 21, 2005 1:42 pm**

How old are you Gulfsurfer, just curious?

Posted: **Sat May 21, 2005 1:52 pm**

Im not talking shite. I'm just saying that i have no respect for someone who wants to commit suicide or slit their wrists. The chicken xxxxx basterds need to toughen up. Its so retarded how many little pansies we have in this world today.

im guessing your a child and so will not take any offence to what you write ...but be carefull little man ..you are treading on very very bad ground .
You do not have the experience yet' in life to make such comments and i strongly suggest you leave this subject alone unless you have any words of comfort to offer the original poster .
If not then shut the hell up untill you have encountered enough death of any kind to make any kind of comment .

Posted: **Sat May 21, 2005 1:54 pm**

...and i truly hope you do not gain any kind of experience of death , i truly do ...some of us have ...too much .

Posted: **Sat May 21, 2005 1:56 pm**

Sorry if i offended anybody, but i have had lots of people i know die. All i was saying is that i have no respect for anybody who does any of that stupid crap.

Posted: **Sat May 21, 2005 2:03 pm**

... no problem , and i understand why you think what you think ... same for me many years ago .. but life has a horrible way and sometimes repeatedly of showing us lessons that we did not want to learn .

have a good weekend

peace .. CheeZee

Posted: **Sat May 21, 2005 2:04 pm**

Yes it does.

-pray for surf!!!

Posted: **Sat May 21, 2005 7:02 pm**

gulfsurfer wrote:Im not talking shite. I'm just saying that i have no respect for someone who wants to commit suicide or slit their wrists. The chicken xxxxx basterds need to toughen up. Its so retarded how many little pansies we have in this world today.

you really havent got a clue have you :roll:

Posted: **Sat May 21, 2005 7:04 pm**

Yeah, i do have a clue....

Posted: **Sat May 21, 2005 8:37 pm**

Um, before we go further here lets take a good recent example. Take Paul Hester the drummer of Crowded House who recently swung from a tree in a Melbourne park. By all accounts a good guy, a guy who had everything...money, fame, family & friends..yet inwardly he was depressed and very unwell, he chose an option that for him was quite viable...yet for us unthinkable...this is the power of illnesses like depression...at your weakest moments you're unable to make rational choices.
It is unwise to be judgemental of these dark moments from the black & white perspective of a happy & healthy person's outlook.

Sure enough one day you'll lose a mate, a friend, an ex-classmate from school or whatever. At this point you'll go...duh. There's more to this lark than I realised....

Posted: **Sat May 21, 2005 8:49 pm**

I've already lost friends to suicide.