any tips for abating anger in the water?

this weekend was a great sesh good waves mostly cool peeps.
unfortunatly I was approached by a loacl that was also a kook.
so insted of kickin his punk a$$ I just laphed his comments off.
but I know I'm gonna see dude again or at least a good chance of it.
I dont really want to get cuffed and taken in cuse I'm the kinda guy who keeps it real cool till I loose it then unfortunatly I cant stop I'ts just the way I was trained as a fighter but this is not the no holds barred arenea
where a ref can save an opponent.
I also dont wanna ask for favors from my frends lawers,cops ect. after the fact or even before if I have too.I'm trying to lead a peacfull exsistance as I get older without so much drama but It seems people always want to take a shot at the title so to speek.yeh I got anger issues who dosent but I'm a trained indivigual who's got years of experience.
how do you all deal with your anger issues in the water when they esclate?
what things do you use to difuse situations when being nice dosent work?
unfortunatly I was approached by a loacl that was also a kook.
so insted of kickin his punk a$$ I just laphed his comments off.
but I know I'm gonna see dude again or at least a good chance of it.
I dont really want to get cuffed and taken in cuse I'm the kinda guy who keeps it real cool till I loose it then unfortunatly I cant stop I'ts just the way I was trained as a fighter but this is not the no holds barred arenea
where a ref can save an opponent.
I also dont wanna ask for favors from my frends lawers,cops ect. after the fact or even before if I have too.I'm trying to lead a peacfull exsistance as I get older without so much drama but It seems people always want to take a shot at the title so to speek.yeh I got anger issues who dosent but I'm a trained indivigual who's got years of experience.
how do you all deal with your anger issues in the water when they esclate?
what things do you use to difuse situations when being nice dosent work?