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wondering what others do about people being aggressive towards them. been having a bad week.

last weekend while surfing i had some guy calling me a haole (very racist term here for caucasian) and telling me i was getting in his way (which was BS. i am experienced enough to know that). then yesterday had some guy swearing at me for riding my bike on the sidewalk (on the side of a highway where i have no other option) then today at the unofficial dog park by my house where theres like 5-6 people with dogs at once, some old guy came with a baseball bat and walked around for an hour making like he was going to hit our dogs when they ran to him all friendly like.

i have various responses including swearing, arguing or becoming submissive and feeling depressed afterward. i feel better when i speak up but i never get into fights.

which is the best response and what do you do most often? thanks.

I allways ignore idiots as i refuse to stoop to their level and in my opinion any confrontation that is avoided is a good thing as generally you will think you are right and they will think they are right and you will not agree.
And finally if they get really in my face i will just laugh, i can't help it as peoples extreme reactions make me laugh. Also quite ffrequently the more trivial the situation the more of a reaction you get.

KS

Let 'em. Walk away and try not to dwell on the "What I shoulda said was..." that always plagues me for a while after a confrontation.

In my opinion the only time to give some back is if there's a real threat of someone getting hurt. Otherwise it's just a waste of breath.

"In order to have faith in his own path, he does not need to prove that someone else's path is wrong." - P Coelho.

If I am in a good mood and I just roll my eyes at them, laugh to myself and go on my way.

If Im not in a good mood I tell them to fleshin' off.

Im generally quite a tolerant person but with people around my age....not so much. I expect them to 'know better' and have a lot less patience with them. Certainly not racists and I would of had a word with the guy in the park to see what the hell he thought he was doing (if he didnt look like a complete psycho).

I usually can't help dropping out a piece of my mind. When a-holes are screwing up the natural way of the world.....and it is cramping my day.....I will let em know.

I never end up in fights tho.......6'2" 250, a crazy look,crazy talk, will usually control the sitch. Especially in the water.....

Hawaiisucks. Is that you in your avatar? If it is and I was a black man and someone called me white i would be upset too. You should buy some mace and spray it in his face. Especially the old man with the baseball bat because he wont be able to run away.

The Fafenator wrote:Hawaiisucks. Is that you in your avatar? If it is and I was a black man and someone called me white i would be upset too. You should buy some mace and spray it in his face. Especially the old man with the baseball bat because he wont be able to run away.

Im a passavist when someone gives me shite i walk away whats the point of stooping to their level. Just dont back me in to a corner or pick on my family/ friends i'll make you regret it .

i always find humor (sarcasm) is good to use in hostile situations, just smile, laugh or even wave and blow a kiss. that usually winds them right up, but cos you haven't lowered yourself to an aggressive state like them, they almost implode on their own anger! i drive a van so i'm always having confrontations (usually my fault though) oh well...

Pick your nose and wipe it on them...

If it is in the water point behind them and screem SHARK. As for the old man with the bat, take a ball out with you and play ball with him
Or just take your sawnoff with you and kneecap him.

Tell them they need to find the Lord

Tell them they need to get laid...

Then offer your services, they'll either run a mile (or paddle) or you get lucky...

pretty good ideas

PapaW wrote:Pick your nose and wipe it on them...

I personally favour a cheerful "Poke it F*ckface". Short and to the point

Wit and walk is my motto. then a quick fleshin' of and leg it

RJD wrote:Tell them they need to get laid...

Then offer your services, they'll either run a mile (or paddle) or you get lucky...

lol! crazy kiwi's!

flyingvee wrote:Tell them they need to find the Lord

times a million. Apparently the "lord" is responsible for all the is evil including george bush and his wars

Dive down, grab a handfull of rocks to throw at them. god forbid they dent the board.
Or...try this. 30% of the time, it works everytime:

Perk up, straighten your back as if you were trying to hear them better. Did you not hear them correctly? they won't know. While staying very alert and erect, open your eyes as wide as you can and just stare at them straight face. Don't stop for as long as you can hold it. Now lick your lips a couple times. Dont stop staring wide eyed. After awhile they will become very concerned and leave.

sonds pretty good. i wish i did that before some racist idiot gave me a black eye yesterday with his longboard, maybe he would have left me alone. stuff like that that makes me remember why i hate hawaii.