talk about your boyfriend/girlfriend relationships

[esonscar]

Suck it up dude, If she needs her sleep from working so much extra so be it.

Send her a bunch of flowers after a couple of days and let us know how you are doing.

Oh yeah, and go for a surf !

[essex sucks]

working on the going for a surf but is sod all down here at the mo

[bluyan]

aahhh the old contol game or a better analogy is the master and his dog......

the master in this case is your g/f,she will do just enough to keep your hopes up and keep you panting away ready for any scraps that she decides to throw to to you and the more she does it the more eager you will become.what you are not realising is the cause of this eagerness...it is normally blinded by the "i love her some much blah blah " which is total bollox...its purely down to the fact that humans do not like being rejected and when they are the natural instinct is to crave the attention of the rejector.

if you are in any doubts about who's playin who just read the first few words of your post "you have just been told that you are goin to have a break".....no discussion... you have been told and then you have been told when you will be let back in down boy

she says she loves you ...not really surehow to put the nail on love but i do know that one thing it involves is caring for someones feelings and if she had a miniscule amount of it she would not put you through the torment you are about to plunge into....

my advice is fook the flowers...go and buy a dog lead...post it to her with the message "go and find your next dog luv"...

you are now free of the lead.....happy dayz

btw good luck with whatever you choose to do

my work here is complete

[libby]

Sorry dude but I think Bluyan has really hit the nail on the head here. If she really cared then she would make the effort to continue things regardless of how many hours she has to work. If I were you I would end it. It cant be that amazing and i'm sure you deserve better....

[essex sucks]

yeah i thought the same think there is somthing she has not told me its a pain i seem to get all the bad luck

[flyingvee]

aahhh the old contol game or a better analogy is the master and his dog......

the master in this case is your g/f,she will do just enough to keep your hopes up and keep you panting away ready for any scraps that she decides to throw to to you and the more she does it the more eager you will become.what you are not realising is the cause of this eagerness...it is normally blinded by the "i love her some much blah blah " which is total bollox...its purely down to the fact that humans do not like being rejected and when they are the natural instinct is to crave the attention of the rejector.

if you are in any doubts about who's playin who just read the first few words of your post "you have just been told that you are goin to have a break".....no discussion... you have been told and then you have been told when you will be let back in down boy

she says she loves you ...not really surehow to put the nail on love but i do know that one thing it involves is caring for someones feelings and if she had a miniscule amount of it she would not put you through the torment you are about to plunge into....

my advice is fook the flowers...go and buy a dog lead...post it to her with the message "go and find your next dog luv"...

you are now free of the lead.....happy dayz

btw good luck with whatever you choose to do

my work here is complete

Hmmm there's some truth in all that - and i'm talkin from experience!!!

[Hang11]

It's easy if you ask me, having a girlfriend is all about sex, not having to wash as much and still being able to get sex, being able to drink even more and still be able to get sex, and if they can cook and don't mind driving you around, then it's all good.

If it stops being about sex, food, and getting a lift off them, and starts turning into hassle, just move on and don't worry about it. There's loads of other choices out there, you just have to start washing regularly for a while again.

[tree4]

It's easy if you ask me, having a girlfriend is all about sex, not having to wash as much and still being able to get sex, being able to drink even more and still be able to get sex, and if they can cook and don't mind driving you around, then it's all good.

If it stops being about sex, food, and getting a lift off them, and starts turning into hassle, just move on and don't worry about it. There's loads of other choices out there, you just have to start washing regularly for a while again.

[bluyan]

It's easy if you ask me, having a girlfriend is all about sex, not having to wash as much and still being able to get sex, being able to drink even more and still be able to get sex, and if they can cook and don't mind driving you around, then it's all good.

If it stops being about sex, food, and getting a lift off them, and starts turning into hassle, just move on and don't worry about it. There's loads of other choices out there, you just have to start washing regularly for a while again.

wise,wise words......mr sucks you really should be takin note of this

as for having all the bad luck....bollox...if you hadn't of been with this latest one you could have picked a real wild card...one of them who wants to poison you or chop yer knob off so you've probably been really lucky

remember...the glass is always half full mate never the other way,kick the negatriods outta bed mate and start livin again

[Hang11]

A few years ago I was in a club in Brighton with one of my mates, it was late and we were wasted. There was a proper midget, the real deal, with the big head and funny arms etc, and she was a filipino , and was totally keen on him. His girlfriend was off saving the world for a few months, and he didn't go for it. It was the perfect dream situation if you ask me, and how many filipino midgets that are up for it are roaming around nightclubs late at night? Definitely a once in a lifetime thing. I was gobsmacked. Some people are really f*****d in the head when it comes to relationships if you ask me.

[Sar]

You're not particularly unlucky mate, its just that this is very true....

Some people are really f*****d in the head when it comes to relationships if you ask me.

....though I dont agree with his other rant

I know that you may feel unlucky but its part of relationships - there are some real weirdo's in the world, she doesnt sound like a weirdo but her actions do speak of selfishness. Ive seen waaay too many times female friends tell their guys that they cant handle a relationship right now but put the little retainer in there - 'I still love you....maybe in a few months'. I wish it was rare but apparently it is not, they're protecting themselves not you. Once a new woman appears on the scene they're straight back in there with the 'I love yous and Im ready now' etc etc. Sadly, this has worked and they get the guy back but ultimately it usually ends badly.

Get out of the situation and move on but try not to hold it against her, people make mistakes all the time but they shouldnt make you suffer for them in the long run. If you do want to be with the woman then there is nothing wrong with tellin her so but making it explicitly clear that you're not hanging about and waiting and perhaps should discuss other alternatives such as makin sure the little time together is quality time.

Either way, chin up mate and try not to let it dominate your thoughts/feelings.

[Dr Rev]

I find that blow up dolls have never let me down !!!

[Sar]

fleshin' hell, I just read back on some of these post and you guys dont half whine about women. If you really want something, say so....if it doesnt suit both parties as is, negotiate, if there's no negotiation possible.....move on.

and you complain that women are complicated "I want this, oooh no but this is nicer, oh I want them both but its either/or.....oh I cant decide so Im just going to go and whine about how complicated women are." make a decision ffs and live with it. If you try but really cant be happy together then be happy apart, its really not that difficult



btw thats not some feminist/just been dumped rant. Due to perserverence and neotiation during difficult times along with good communitcation on whats important to each other Ive got my other half surfing (really played the long game there) and he's got sky tv or the sport (he played the stubborn game there) and we're happy . I sound completely full of myself, I know but whatcanyado?

[libby]

Ha ha missed you Sar!! x

[bluyan]

fleshin' hell, I just read back on some of these post and you guys dont half whine about women. If you really want something, say so....if it doesnt suit both parties as is, negotiate, if there's no negotiation possible.....move on.

maybe being from the female side you are slightly blinded by the fact that negotiation and women do not belong in the same sentence

[Sar]

fleshin' hell, I just read back on some of these post and you guys dont half whine about women. If you really want something, say so....if it doesnt suit both parties as is, negotiate, if there's no negotiation possible.....move on.

maybe being from the female side you are slightly blinded by the fact that negotiation and women do not belong in the same sentence

lol - you speak as if we're terrorists or something..." we will not negotiate with...."

maybe being from the male side of things you are slightly blinded to the subtle but important factor.....technique

[Sar]

Ha ha missed you Sar!! x

you too my dear
x

[Hang11]

....though I dont agree with his other rant

It wasn't a rant - it was honest advice based on many years of experience, and a string of emotionally crushed women

I've been married for quite a few years now, and I've come to the realisation that it's about sex and getting a good feed. The rest is just rubbish that we convince ourselves is important, purely because we're too scared to admit that it's about sex and food. And getting a lift home from the pub when it's raining.

[bluyan]

fleshin' hell, I just read back on some of these post and you guys dont half whine about women. If you really want something, say so....if it doesnt suit both parties as is, negotiate, if there's no negotiation possible.....move on.

maybe being from the female side you are slightly blinded by the fact that negotiation and women do not belong in the same sentence

lol - you speak as if we're terrorists or something..." we will not negotiate with...."

maybe being from the male side of things you are slightly blinded to the subtle but important factor.....technique

slightly blinded to the subtle but important factor of technique ...far from it....but i can confirm that i could n't give a flyin fook about it...

tbf it cant be easy with all the hormones flyin round your (females,i'm not genralisin ) body...must be a fookin nightmare....but i think if you where to give a balanced view you would have to admit that the majority of males are pretty consistent in their behaviour from late teens to passing away.....on the other hand females are so fookin eratic it would be easier to calm down a box o frogs

[Samson Boy]

Hey man sex is a part of everyone's nature. For some people its more than others. In the end I guess we determine the relationship on how much we as individuals are being pleased. But thats not always how it works. Sure after great sex you can say thanks for making me feel good. But hey maybe some people are out for self-exploration.